Dating Mistakes To Avoid

 

As a Millennial finding a date in our times is less complicated. You can meet people in the most unconventional way nowadays. A lot of people find dates online or through dating meetings organised from time to time where you can meet people with same interest and connect. The ease of finding a date these days comes with its own complications and alot of us makes mistakes that doesn't make our dating experience fun and lasting. So, I have come up with a list of dating mistakes to avoid below;

1. Relying On Dating Apps Alone: so you meet someone on instagram that has a very attractive profile, their job is enticing, photos are bomb, location and relationship status are perfect really shouldn't be the only thing to convince you about a person. Still ask important questions and ensure the information they give matches what's on their profile. You can also search for them on other platforms just to get more information on them and to ensure the have the same information about themselves on other platforms. Then schedule a meeting, some people use other peoples photos on their accounts or may exaggerate how they look. Some people also avoid making video calls or anything that may make you see them for who they are and that's a big red flag. If they refuse to meet up or stand you up it means they are not genuine and you should immediately stop contacting them. If they do agree to meet up, choose a very secure place, it could be a restaurant or bar depending on your mood that is not too close to your area to meet up with them. Depending on how the first meeting goes you can schedule to have another date and if things progress further they can now be invited to your home and so on.

2. Stop Sending Nudes To Your  Date: I know how romantic and sensual it can be to share your nude pictures with the person you are dating. But remember you are just dating and getting to know each other and remember you can never really know a person, you only know the part of their life they want you to know. It would be wise no matter how much you think you love and trust a person, and no matter how convincing they are to not send your nudes. If they do have your best interest at heart they should understand and be satisfied with physically seeing you and your covered photos. The dangers of doing this is, you might find out that you don't feel the same way about that person as you once did and they might retaliate maliciously by leaking out those photos or blackmail you. So to avoid unnecessary regrets in the future don't do it plssssss atleast until they put a ring on your finger.

3. Be Sure Of Their Sexual Preferences: the world has changed so much especially on the issue of sexuality. We have people identifying as so many things these days. So do not be in a hurry to start having sex and having it unprotected with the person you are dating. Because somehow down the line you can find out they love men and women, men, animals, etc. And that may not sit right with you. So before you get very physical try to be sure of your partners sexuality.

4. Date More Than One Person: be open and you do not need to limit your dating to just one person. You can entertain interested persons and get to know each one of them with an open mind. This way you get to choose the one with the best fit for you. There is noting wrong with dating multiple people, just don't engage in sex with multiple people and in the dating stages I would advice you don't have sex until you finally decide to progress into a relationship with one. Have fun give each of your date a good energy and chance to prove they are worthy to have you.

5. Your Self Esteem Matters: before going into the dating world. You need to make sure your self esteem is 100% strong. You want to make sure you are very at peace with how you look or behave. It could be your weight, skin, hair, voice etc. Deal with your insecurity so that when you start dating you are confident and strong and even when your date notice or comments on anything you are insecure about.  It doesn't bring you down. It would also help you know your worth so you do not settle for less because you feel insecure about something about yourself. No one should make you change anything about yourself for them.

6. Don't Force A Connection: allow the connection flow naturally, don't be to quick to say I love you or certain things that can change the dynamics of a relationship quickly if you are not sure of your feelings. Even if you have such feelings you need to give the other person time to atleast get to that point. Don't assume what the other person is feeling for them. It's a good thing you are starting to feel more for them, still get to know them more, be sure that they can handle what you are willing to give and that they are ready for that kind of connection.

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7. Respect Your Dates Choice Of Privacy: everyone is posting about their date or relationship doesn't mean you too have to do that. Slow down, take your time be sure of what you are doing and want for the relationship.  Except its an agreement between you both or the date is to get publicity and attention you dont need to be on social media posting your the person you are dating. So even if the dating doesn't last you don't embarass yourself or your partner on social media. Respect people privacy but if your date doesn't mind then go ahead. 

Remember that dating is just a stage in the relationship and not alot of commitment is put into it by everyone. So just have fun, get to know each other and avoid these mistakes mentioned above. If you have any questions you can send me a mail or leave a comment down below. See you in my next post.

Cheers!!!