These Could Be The Reasons Why You Were Ghosted

  

 

GHOSTING!!!! OH LORD. It can be so embarrassing especially when everyone knows you were in a relationship. That awkward conversation with family and friend explaining that you are no longer in a relationship and don't even know why you were dumped. It is even more frustrating when you have no means to communicate or locate that person again. I know, and guess what? You are not alone because alot of people have and are going through same thing.

As women or men getting into a new relationship can be so exciting especially when we have so many expectations like engagement, moving in together, marriage, etc. It's very captivating when we find someone that we might consider our type or has the qualities we want. After dating and having fun it always hurts so badly, whether you are a guy or a lady when this people we love so much decides to ghost us. The most hurtful part of this situation is that when someone ghosts us thy leave without an explanations, leaving you with so many questions and confusion as to why the left. I know we all have been there and if you haven't you must know someone that has been ghosted.

This post today will highlight most of the possible reasons why you partner ghosted you without an explanation.  And hopefully you get the closure you deserve.

So here are six (6) possible reasons why He or She Ghosted you.

1. YOU HAD DIFFERENT INTEREST: oh yes, alot of people go into a relationship with different interests. You could be going into a relationship at a point in time in your life where you are looking forward to marriage and having a family while the other person is still figuring out life and as a guy, might still be discovering himself. That is a big red flag already. A person like that just wants to have fun and move to the next thing and when he/she discovers you have a different interest they will stay for a while and enjoy the benefits which could include sex, money, fame, your personality etc. And the move on without explanation because they know they can't give you what you want at that time or in the nearest future. And maybe you were really nice so they would avoid that awkward and painful conversation of breaking up with you. 60% of the time they would allow you know as little information about them as possible. Religious interest and careers choices too can cause a person to ghost you because I might have been an artiest when we met and one year later I decide to follow Jesus and you don't want to believe in what I believe in, well this can make a person get frustrated and leave. 

2. DISTANCE: one major relationship deal breaker is distance. For a relationship to work there must be physical contacts regularly or often. Moving to a new state, travelling for education, moving to a new continent will take a toll on your relationship. I know there are some exceptions where the relationship still works but not everyone is willing to make the sacrifice. It requires alot of patience and effort from both parties. Its easy to get distracted especially in today's world and communication starts to suffer till it completely ends and its not always easy to make a decision to go visit and sometimes when you do the spark and feelings are no longer the same. So suddenly your partner no longer replies your messages, calls emails and they might even go as far as blocking you when you calls becomes irritating to them.

3. THEY LEVELLED UP AND YOU DIDN'T: so maybe your partner was an insecure person or over weight and didn't care much about life and career and all of a sudden they decide to change their life. Or in another senerio your partner has started mingling and doing business with the elite. They need a partner that can support that change in their life so your lifestyle and habits too has too change. For the first example maybe you guys were eating unhealthy and they decide to start leaving a healthy lifestyle and you kept drawing them back to their old ways they will begin to think and doubt that having you in their life at that point is unnecessary. The second point when they start to mingle with very intellectual people and they are having meetings where you would be in attendance and you can't hold an intelligent conversation or present yourself in a way you will be accepted by his new circle. They will find someone that could be in same level with them or is willing to. So when your partner levels up and you don't, there is a strong possibility that you would be ghosted.

4. YOU ARE TOO NEEDY: I know when we are in love, we want to talk, see, play and be around our partner all the time. But remember they have a life and career as you should too. We should always give our partners their own space to do their own thing. When your happiness or fun is tied to another person and without them you can't be happy, it makes you depend on your partner support too much. This can be overwhelming and it might begin to push the person away gradually just to have their space and peace of mind. Your calls becomes annoying, they can't hang out with other people, they can't have time to think. The possibility of been ghosted is high.

5. YOU ARE JEALOUS AND INSECURE: I know I have ghosted a person for this myself because it can be so exhausting having to reassure a person of your faithfulness in a relation. A person who has low self esteem and trust issues. Will constantly nag, spoil intimate moments,  embarass you with the opposite sex, stuck you etc. So for peace of mind it will be very hard for such partner to remain with you. Because of how difficult it can be to break up with a jealous person it's very likely you would be ghosted.

6. YOUR ATTITUDE: a man need respect and a woman needs care and love. As simple as it sounds its not easy to give. If you have a bad attitude, you are rude to him/ her not even minding that other people like his family, co-worker, kids and friends are around. You talk them down and discourage any effort they make, you criticise them negatively and make them always feel less of themselves. It would be very difficult for such a person to express themselves to you so it's very possible they would ghost you.

Well well, I hope you found this points helpful in figuring out why you were ghosted. There are so many other reasons which I would include in future articles, so do subscribe to the blog. 

Note: it is not always your fault why your partner ghosted an its not because you were not enough. Sometimes, people just can't be satisfied no matter what you do. In my next post I will be writing on how to get over been dumped to help you move on and find someone better.

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