HOW TO know IF He OR SHE IS THE ONE

A very common question in our minds when ever we met someone or are in a relationship with someone is HOW DO I KNOW IF HE/SHE IS THE ONE?

As simple as this question is, there is no one perfect answer. But do not be discouraged, Todays post will help you answer this simple but complicated question. Let me ask you a question, Is there really just one person for everyone? I personally don't think so because we can find more than one person that meets all our requirements in the opposite sex that is why it is possible for people to marry more than once. So, back to todays topic, here are a few pointers to know if you're currently dating the ONE;

• PEACE: peace of mind is very important for a healthy relationship and to maintain a sound mental health. If you find peace with your current partner because of how the make you feel and know how important you are to them. Your feelings and emotions are their concerns because they care about you. They would try as much as possible to listen to you and and not hurt you. They genuinely feel bad and apologise when they do and take every step possible to avoid it happening again. You will never question whether they feel the same way you do or where you place is in their heart. They would always look for different ways to prove to you how much they love and value you. So in your heart you would never question where you stand in their lives.
• LOYALTY AND RESPECT: if you are with the one you would never need to question their loyalty to you. They would be faithful and try to avoid giving attention to the opposite sex. They would defend you to family, friends and co-workers.  They would make sure everyone around them know how valuable you are to them. They would never be physically and emotionally abusive to you. They would stand by you emotionally, physically, mentally and financially if need be without hesitation. You would feel safe with them and should not be worried about opening up to them about anything. If you cannot feel safe to be open to your partner 100% of the time they are not the one.

• ATTENTION: the one would always make our time for you. No matter how busy or tired they are. Your calls, talks, laughs etc should never be boring to them. If your partner cannot enjoy having conversations with you on what ever topic it is whether, its their interest or not, they are not the one because, throughout the relation you will feel alone. You should be able to talk about your frustration from work, business, family etc. With your partner and they should be able to allow you talk and advice or encourage you. They should have time to hangout, travel, make lasting memories with you. 
• THEY WILL COME CORRECT: from the first three months of dating or courting if you are with the one, the relationship will be defined. They would be very sure of what and where the relationship is going. They should have short/long term goals for the relationship. They would have a job, career, house, business etc thereby assuring you of their stability. They would love to meet everyone that is important to you and vice versa. They would be sure they want you without a doubt. They would be financially and emotionally to stable to handle settling down. 

• SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY: if your current partner can satisfy your sexual needs without you having to get someone else to fulfill them them they might just be the one for you. As simple as it is a lot of people ignore this part. If you are someone that loves regular sex and your current partner only wants sex once a week then there is trouble already you should be with your match not someone you have to convince all the time to have sex with you. There might be certain sexual practices you might enjoy, if your partner cannot fulfil them or try to compromise if they don't then they are not the one for you. You would not feel weird to talk about sex, sex styles, foreplay options etc with the one. They would always listen and try to improve on observations you  make during sex. This very point of sexual compatibility is responsible for so many broken homes.
• COMMUNICATION & BELIEF: If communication flows easily without misunderstanding or arguments. If you can communicate without been judged or judging the person. If making decisions that might affect both of you is done with consideration. If both of you are willing to compromise and sacrifice for each other when necessary then you might have just found the one. If you share same beliefs or have mutual respect for each others belief and wouldn't let your belief affect you judgment and willingness to participate when necessary then you have found the one.

I can go on and on but I believe this few points would be very helpful to you in knowing if you are with the one or not. There is no magic to it. One very simple thing to take away from this post is that if you are with the one you would experience so much peace and satisfaction in your heart that no one else can can give to you. You would never be unsure of where you are in their heart. 

Thanks for reading today's blog post. Feel free to drop questions, observations, suggestions in the comment section and also share your experience on how you found the one.

Cheers!